How to date a porn star

In terms of picking up porn stars, you can use a lot of the core Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) approach...

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OK, now that that's out of the way....

I've been getting a lot of questions about how to pick up porn stars specifically, so I thought I'd leave some tips here:

* They're flaky. Don't rely on dates. Get them home the same night you meet them, or run a lot of text game until you meet up with them again, but don't do the call-on-Wednesday-to-make-plans-for-drinks-on-Friday thing.

* Most, to confirm a stereotype, are not that bright. A few aren't and will resent being thought of as dumb. Keep the conversation light and focused on things like popular culture, music, entertainment, and so on, until you get a sense of what you're dealing with.

* Do NOT play therapist. Yes, some porn stars come from broken homes, were abused, etc. I've never seen a survey on this but in my experience, most aren't, and will resent you if you act like they are damaged goods. Most porn stars I know like their job - it's still work, but it's decently paid, and they don't have to work that much. If they do have other issues, they're probably not datable anyway, and even if you wanted to go there, playing therapist will NOT help you. My downloadable ebook, Magic Bullets (you can download free chapters from that page) goes into more detail on this.

* Do not play tourist. Most guys will ask questions like "what's it like to be a porn star" that they've been asked a million times. I don't care how curious you are - any question you want to know is something she's been asked before. She has a life outside of work, and you'll do a lot better if you focus on that. Once you've been sleeping with her, you can ask anything you want.

* They're not as hard to pick up as you might think (especially if you read how many emails I get about this). It's harder to find the right places to meet them than it is to seduce them once you're there (provided you have good game to begin with...if you're not consistently picking up regular girls, get good at that first). Between the judgmental guys and the guys who just want to "save them" and the guys who treat them as one-dimensional sex objects, there's a lot of room to get her interest by just being cool and relatively normal.

* They party. Almost all porn girls do some sort of drugs. I don't do coke, but if you do, that's a sure ticket to getting her home & happy.

* Be non-judgmental and non-jealous. This is good advice in general, but especially around porn girls. Don't be judgmentally anti-judgmental either.

* No porn star pictures herself as being a porn star for their whole lives. They all have had some idea of what they really want to do "after" (realistic or not). Use future projection (from Magic Bullets) to situate yourself in her reality and build a connection.

* Don't assume that what they do on film is what they want to do on a first date. Now, every porn star I've been with has been kinky...don't be too boring either. But she's dated off-camera before, and has ideas on how that should go. She may sleep with you on the first date, but save the 4-girls-on-1-guy and the whips-and-chains for later.

* Show that you have basic idea of what goes on in her life. Most people in "the business" date other people in the business because they think (or experience has shown) that those people are best able to understand and relate to them. Without contradicting any of the advice above about not playing tourist or being her therapist, have a basic idea of how the industry works. (not from porn sites or anti-porn activists...read a couple blogs from people actually in the industry)

* Do NOT be a fan. You've never seen her movies. I don't care if you have. You haven't. You don't hate her work or have a problem with it, you do enjoy porn once in a while, but you're not up to date up on who has filmed what recently, who is up for awards at the AVN, and you definitely are not familiar with any aspect of her work. Trust me.

I was just thinking...this would be the most fun job in the world. Inventing porn star names. Kind of like the adult equivalent of whoever it is who invents names of colors. Have you ever been to a paint store and noticed 30,000 different names for slightly different shades of yellow? Eastern sunrise? Morning mist? Daisy yellow? Ocean sand? I wonder if I could slip a "puke stain" in there. Hi, I'd like my kid's bedroom painted puke stain yellow, please. Thank you.